alium asked: My boyfriend and I are both Christians, and we're both abstinent; we're waiting until marriage. We're thinking about moving in an apartment together, but I've heard someone say that it's "sinful" for unmarried couples to live together even if they're not doing anything sexual. What's your opinion?

Wholly poop! That’s so rad that you and you’re boyfriend are waiting until marriage! What an awesome choice! I for one would never recommend or give the green flag for someone to live with their boyfriend or girlfriend alone in a house, apartment, or any living establishment. Now hear me out. I wouldn’t recommend this to anyone not because it’s sinful, but because it could lead you to fall into sin, or someone else to fall into sin. Saying you’re going to stay abstinent and actually staying abstinent are two different things. 

Why open the doors to temptation? God tells us to run from temptation. (1 Corinthians 6:18) 

Also, there are some people that know you as a christian girl and you’re boyfriend as a christian guy. Some people without you knowing it might even look up to you as a christian role model, you know. When you’re a christian there’s always going to be  non-christians waiting for you to mess up so they can call you out on it, so they can judge you.

Let’s say maybe you do move into an apartment with you’re boyfriend, and you both do in fact stay abstinent. Sure, you guys and God will know you didn’t fall into sin, but the secular view of an unmarried couple living together always relates to sexual things. Even though you might not like it and as I said before there are always eyes on you, people who look up to you as a christian (these people might not even talk to you, but still look up to you) and if they find out you’re living with you’re boyfriend they’re going to assume things. They might even think “well this Christian girl I know lives with her boyfriend.. why can’t I?”  and this person might not even stay abstinent. 

“Therefore, if what I eat causes my brother to fall into sin, I will never eat meat again, so that I will not cause him to fall.” - 1 Corinthians 8:13

Well that’s all I have to say. =)

I really hope you really think about this and pray about it. 

God Bless!