Anonymous asked: Hi so I have a problem, there's this guy I met a few years ago and he doesn't remember me but that's another story, right before he came back into my life at school, the whole summer I sat there hoping a guy like him would come to my school... and well he showed up.. He's an amazing guy, a committed Christian and just everything I would ever want in a guy... I don't talk to him very much because I know he likes this other girl, but I can't help but feel that God put him in my life for reason?

I say this time and time again, but you know..

there’s so much to say about GOD; but the thing that I love most is that our GOD is the one who holds the universe in His hands. He holds every single one of us and yet, He’s so intricately interested in every single one of our lives. 

He doesn’t look down and see a crowd on the earth. A million or a billion; He doesn’t see a crowd … He sees you. And He knows you and He cares about you deeply. He knows your burdens, He knows your fears, He knows your troubles, He knows your dreams, He knows your desires… He knows you and He loves you. And GOD wants for you to find love as much as He wants it for anybody else.

But most times, we tend to want to rush the plans that GOD has for us. We let our emotions get the best of us. And usually, its for things that are only distractions to stray us from where GOD wants us to be. And you gotta be careful with people because not every person that says “I’m Christian” are really Christian.

The term Christian means “little anointed one”. and so a Christian is someone who’s flesh has died to live in the spirit for GOD with everything they’ve got. People don’t usually remember but, Satan was also created as a beautiful, angel of light, glowing and glittering brightly, but not all that glitters is gold.

The best thing I can tell you to do is to keep your focus on Jesus. 

Don’t be so desperate to be in a relationship with a person you think could be “the one”. Those relationships usually don’t last very long and they only build borders to distance you from GOD’s plans for your life. 

So I encourage you to read your bible and ask GOD to guide you. Chase hard after His heart. And trust in Him with everything. Within His time and above all things— if it be His will, He will bring that special someone into your life. But you you gotta stay and wait upon GOD.

He’ll never fail you kid. 

Stay righteous friend.

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Anonymous asked: i starting to have more and more of a crush on this guy. he's one of my closest friends, and is christian and an amazing guy. but i don't really see myself marrying him, even though he's a great guy, with a loving heart for God. what should i do?

Relationships can be nice to have and all, but most young people (and adults too) get into relationships for the wrong reasons. They let their hearts and emotions lead them and this usually always causes massive stumbling in our walk with Christ.

Now, I’m not saying that relationships are bad and that if you’re following Jesus you shouldn’t be in one.. No. relationships aren’t bad. But I do encourage anyone and everyone to keep their heart strings attached to God’s heart first and to focus solely on Him.

I assure you, someday soon enough (if it be His will) God will bring that special prince into your life, but in order to get there you need to submit yourself to God, invest your trust in Him and live with a heart completely abandoned to His will for your life.

And always remember that the heart can be very deceitful (Jeremiah 17:9). So if you see that the person that you are crushing on or dating is becoming less of a crush/less of a lover and more of an idol, then I’d step back and chase hard after God.

Ask God for wisdom and understanding and He’ll give it to you (James 1:5) And ask Him to guide you into doing what His will for your life is— and He will.

And don’t forget what God says about priorities.

Him first. Then family. Then relationships. Then the church. Then people. (Deuteronomy 6:5, Ephesians, Proverbs 22, 1 Timothy 5:8, Galatians 5:13, Hebrews 10:24, 1 Thessalonians 5:11 and Matthew 28.19)

stay cool.

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Anonymous asked: Is it a sin to kiss a girl?

It’s not a sin to kiss someone but it is a sin to lust after someone. When you kiss someone (boyfriend or girlfriend) make sure it’s out of pure love and it’s not luring you into thinking about immoral pre-marital sex with the person because if it is then that’s when sin falls in place. Ask God to help you discern the difference between lust and love.

God Bless!

Anonymous asked: Hi! Love your blog! I have this guy that's a really good friend of mine in Christ that I found out is interested in this girl from my school. He doesn't know much about her, but I know that she isn't saved, sleeps around, and smokes etc. As a friend, I don't want him to get hurt, but I don't think that she is going to let him see that side of her. So my question is should I say something to him?

Howdy partner! :D

All the Glory goes out to our Saviour. Dad. & King. Jesus!

It’s very possible that God wants this to happen so that He can use your friend to lead her closer to Jesus. But in this case, I highly doubt that.

You know, I made the mistake and dated a very similar girl about a year and a half back. To make a long story short, She told me she was studying to be a youth pastor (which I later found out was a lie). I later found out that she smoked mary-jane, spoke sexually and masturbated about everyday and that she has done just about everything with lots of other guys together. I found all this out later on from on of her friends. She was also very obsessed with tattoos and was pretty selfish. She lied to bring me in to her. And I still remember I told her that we should pray together, she got pretty upset and never wanted to. She told me, ”..I don’t really care to pray, but you can pray on your own if you want..”

That’s how the enemy works. He pulls us in through our emotions and does anything that He can to knock us down and stray us from God’s path. In this case, he’s using this girl to make your friend fall. and yes, even to hurt him emotionally and spiritually. Which could even lead to a depression if not careful.

By virtue of His own suffering under temptation, He is able to help those who are exposed to temptation. Hebrews 2:18

Only Jesus can save us from temptation. And it’s only Jesus who can save someone from their lifestyle. The only thing we can do, is pray hard for that girl so that God would come like a rushing wind into her heart and change her life around and save her from such a dangerous lifestyle. Pray if it be His will, that God would open a road up so that (God through you) could talk to her about Jesus.

And pray for your friend so that God would give Him wisdom to know that being with that girl is not what God truly wants from him. Pray so that God would reveal to him the consequences of dating her and the possible aftermath of the choices he make; to make him aware that the choice he makes can affect many people in his life in a negative way.

So Yeah! Definitely speak up and pray hard for him. But don’t get too involved (don’t do things by your own strength) because when you do, you’ll only make things worse. and don’t be forceful.

Put it in God’ hands and pray that His will would be done. Amen?

Stay righteous, cool kid.

//bearhugsforjesus

Anonymous asked: Hi! Blessings!!! I'm a Christian and my boyfriend too. but a few months ago we had sex, then we prayed to the Lord from the bottom of our hearts for forgiveness because we were repentant. we still together and we decide to don't do that again. I know that God forgive us but my question is... are we still being for each other? because we are fixing our relationship. p.d. is being hard for us being in the fire of God and I think that influence :/

God’s love and grace knows know end.

And it’s because of that and the fact that you both have truly asked for God’s forgiveness-that He forgave you.

God loves you so much kid. He doesn’t want to see you making the wrong choices, He doesn’t want to see you get hurt— on the contrary, God’s heart desires to see you grow up to be strong in Him. He loves you dearly.

And well, only God knows what is meant to be and what isn’t. His will goes above all things and His logic goes beyond all understanding. (Matthew 6:33, Philippians 4:7)

The best thing you both can do is to put each other on the side for at least 3 months and during that wait, chase hard after the heart of God. Read His word! Listen to worship music, and dive deep into learning more and spending more time with God. Get to know Him. But I really mean it, truly get to know who God is. And then ask God, what path is the one that you’d like me to take Lord? 

Tell God that you want His will for your life above all things. Ask Him to guide you and tell God that even though you want or don’t want this relationship to last, tell Him that you will surrender to His will and that you trust in Him to keep or break off whatever it is that is going to help you to grow closer to Him.

God will ever guide you wrong. He only wants the very best for both you and your boyfriend’s life. He wants to see you both grow and to be strong in His love. And without a doubt, the path God chooses for us and the people that He wants in each our lives, is all for a reason and for a perfect plan. God knows best and no doubt about it, but God knows what and who will make us happy.

So I challenge you both, let go and out the relationship on hold for 3 months. Let God guide you both and seek hard after His word and His heart, and I assure you, God will take control. And whatever is meant to be by His will, will come to be. If that relationship is part of His will for both of your lives, then even after 3 months of being on hold, it will still be strong and if anything, even stronger now that you give God that control.

God loves you both soo much. Learn to trut in Him! Trusting in God is so worth it! There’s a possible chance that the relationship you guys have with each other is meant to last, but there’s also a chance that God has better for both you guys. And I don’t know about you, but I’d like to have the very best of what God has in store for my life! :D

Those who know your name will trust in you, for you, LORD, have never forsaken those who seek you. Psalm 9:10

Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him and he will do this: 6 He will make your righteousness shine like the dawn, the justice of your cause like the noonday sun. Psalm 37:5-6

Let Go & Let God.

Be highly blessed!

//bearhugsforjesus

thegoodtimesforever asked: Struggling to know whether my relationship with my girlfriend is one of Lust or Love, I know I love her but I don't know whether she likes me for who I am or what I am

God is Love (1 John 4:8). And if that’s true, then True and Genuine Love must only come from Him. 

I encourage you to focus on your relationship with the Big Guy Upstairs before all things. You see friend, No one has ever Loved you more or will ever be able to Love as much as He does (John 3:16). And like I said earlier, He wants the very best for you. 

God’s logic goes beyond all understanding and His word promises that He will give wisdom to anyone who asks for it (James 1:5). 

Your best bet is to ask God to give you wisdom and understanding to discern through your situation. Ask Him to open up your spiritual eyes and spiritual ears to see past the worlds perspective of things; and ask Him to give you the strength and the courage to accept and follow the path that He directs you towards (even if it’s not what you wanted).

Personally, from what God has taught me after countless times of making the same mistakes— and from the wisdom I have gained and from knowing the word, even if it would be really hard, I would let that relationship go and trust completely in God because I’ve come to learn that God truly knows best. And I’ve realized that it’s God Himself that is constantly and persistently trying to save us from the heartaches that we bring upon ourselves. He’s the one that is trying to keep us safe. He’s the one that truly Loves us.

God doesn’t want to see you in heartache, but He does want you to learn to trust in Him with your all. 

Ask God for clarity and for direction, and I have no doubt that if you open your heart to His will, He will guide you to the place where He needs you to be and He will help you to live a righteous life that brings Him glory. Aslo, ask God to take out anything and anyone out of your life that is blocking from allowing your relationship to grow with Jesus. Follow His will for your life and someday, He will bring that special someone into your life. 

You’ll see it was worth the wait. No doubt about it. But in order to get there, you need to let everything you knew go, and begin to confide in God for everything you can’t see.

Faith in the unseen. 

God bless you, kid.

//bearhugsforjesus

thegoodtimesforever asked: I read about one you guys & your relationship turning from love to lust but can it be rescued?

Heidy ho, neighbor!

You know, the Bible says that God is Mighty to Save (Zephaniah 3:17). It goes on to say that He is able to do beyond the impossible (Ephesians 3:20). And Jesus assures us that a little faith is more than enough to see mountains lift and move. 

The brutal truth is, Nothing is impossible for the one who believes (Mark 9:23).

So Yeah. It can be rescued. 

But the question it all comes down to is this:

Is it you that wants the relationship to to be rescued, or is it God that wants it to be rescued?

God wants the very best for you. 

& He has bodaciously stellar plans for your life! (Jeremiah 29:11). But in order to reach those epic plans and to live in that bright future He has for you, you need to live completely with a heart abandoned to His will. It means living a life of surrender to Him. It means trusting and counting on God for the highs and lows.   

Don’t be like King David— and take things into your own hands. Let God take control of the steering wheel, brah!

Instead of asking God to rescue your relationship, ask Him for His will to be done in your life.

And I assure you with all my heart; if it’s in God’s will for your life (if it’s meant to be), then surely it will come to be, but on His time.

God is never late and He definitely knows what He’s doing and why He’s doing it. 

And welp. cool kids trust in God. &&& I know that you’re a cool kid. 

soo.. let’s count on God for every high and every low. Amen? We’ll be praying for you.

Be highly blessed kid.

//bearhugsforjesus

Anonymous asked: My close male friend and I are considering approaching a relationship. We both know Christ, but are unsure if dating is right for us, as I will be attending school next year. We're continuing to seek God's will in prayer, but things are just generally difficult. Tips?

We are truly sorry for getting to this question so late.

Seeking to live by God’s will— means to die in the flesh and live in the spirit. And living with a heart abandoned to His will is exactly what God is looking for in his people— during these hard times. 

 So, best thing you can do is simply leave it in God’s hands.

God is the one who holds the entire universe in His hands. The bible says that His (God’s) fingers, he divided the oceans, rivers, lakes, ponds,  and streams. He crushed rocks with his bear hands and made sand to dance and lay graciously over the shorelines. The bible says that with His finger tips and voice, He created the universe. and in that universe, he created galaxies upon galaxies upon galaxies. And the Bible says that He created millions upon zillionz of stars in each galaxy. And you know what’s really (Capital K) Krazy? It’s knowing that God knows the name of each and every single star that He created.

And above all things, He knows you. He knows you like He knows himself. He knows your dreams, your burdens, your worries, your troubles and your desires. He knows everything. (Psalm 147:5, Job 37:16, Isaiah 55:9 and 46:9, 1 Samuel 2:3, Hebrews 4:13, Matthew 10:30)

“Even before a word is on my tongue, behold, O LORD, you know it altogether. You knew it all along.” Psalm 139:4

God knows you. And He loves you deeply. More than anyone else ever could.

And well, if God knows best and God knows all.. and if God is in complete control, then I would encourage not to worry about it. Don’t even focus on the circumstances. Let God guide both your hearts. Invite Him to be your Captain. And know that if this relationship is meant to become a reality for the long hold, and *if it is His will* then within His perfect timing, it will come to be. But you need to be patient and you need to focus and walk in the path that God has for you. 

He’ll make everything right. Do you believe it? ‘Cause I do :)

Stay righteous, kid! And believe in in what God holds for your future. 

the best is truly yet to come. 

// bearhugsforjesus

Anonymous asked: im in a long distance relationship with a christian guy and its really hard on me because we cant communicate as much as we want. we've had any kind of physical contact. but because of the long distance, we have started sexting and we always talk about the sex we'll have when we marry and it has really gotten to me. I pray everyday to God so that he could free me. but i feel so guilty even praying. i love my bf and i love God too. i know what im doing isnt right but i dont know how to stop this!

I understand what you’re going through, anon.

And to be quite honest, I went through the same exact thing a little over a year ago (before my sister and I started bearhugsforjesus)

I fell in what I thought was love with a a really nice and amazing girl— that I had met here on tumblr. Me being in Florida and her being in Pennsylvania made it a long distance relationship. But we fell in love fast for who we were to each other. And well, since we could not physically come in contact with each other yet, we texted a-lot (almost every few minutes) and it never got old. And I thought it was cool because we both were Christian and she was studying to be a youth pastor. But easily, if there was ever a chance that she could have been my wife someday, it was lost due to my allowing of my emotions to lead her and I into sexting each other daily. And I tell you the truth anon, our relationship went from a pure, clean and strong friendship filled with unconditional love, it went from that— to a rapid fall into a pit of obsession and lust.

I don’t think I’ll ever forget her or will she forget me, ‘cause our relationship ended in complete heartache and tragedy. And sometimes, I feel as if I poisoned my possible Juliet because she looked up to me and fell in love with me because of my love and passion for Jesus. I inspired her to seek God more. But when I leaded us into following our emotions for each other, everything went wrong. And she was completely heart-broken and I wouldn’t even doubt very confused about her faith. Very devastated was she. I’m not proud of what I lead her and I into. But I do give glory to God because know I understand and know better. && I thank God for forgiving me and at the same time, I thank him for letting me go through it so I could learn from my own mistakes.

You see friend, God knows that each and every person wants to have someone to share life with and to grow old with. 

As a matter of fact, the first thing that God saw as not good, was loneliness. //Genesis 1// That’s why God made Eve for Adam. But if we look closely at this, the enemy attacked the plans that God had for Adam and Eve by tempting Eve to eat from the tree that was forbidden by God. and Eve encouraged Adam. And Adam accepted to be tempted too. And so, when they took that bite, I imagine they had those few seconds of self pleasure/satisfaction because everything became known to them.

But pleasure is not a long lasting feeling. It’s short and it’s temporary. And just like that, everything went downhill. 

What I’ve come to learn is that the only one who can satisfy our hearts at an infinity, is Jesus. And I couldn’t do life without Him. Without Him, my life would be meaningless and It’d be worth nothing. I believe God let’s us go through things to learn so that we can teach and guide others in the path He has set out for us.

Our God, the one who holds and cradles the universe and the stars in His hands, knows you heart., friend. He also knows your boyfriends heart. //Luke 16:15//

The bible also says that He knows our thoughts and intensions/motives. But what He wants from you is to be honest and transparent with Him. He also wants you to surrender your relationship to Him. He hopes that you would ask Him to guide you into living a life of sacrifice, complete heart abandoned to His will for your life.

God is a God love but He is also a God of justice. And he holds some pretty high standards. To God, hating a person is equivalent to murdering a person. And lusting is no different than committing physical adultery with a person. // 1 John 3:15, Matthew 5:28//  God is also holy and He can’t grow in a persons life when they live in sin. That doesn’t mean He’s not with you, it just means that you’re relationship cannot grow to where God wants it to be until you rid yourself from the sin. And Jesus teaches and encourages us to remove anything or anyone from our lives if it/they keeps us falling into sin because sin leads to an eternal death. //Mark 9:43, Matthew 5:30//

The best advise I can possibly give you is to seek God and to chase after His heart with your all. And ask Him to forgive you for what you and your boyfriend are doing. We’re living in hard times and things are yet to get worse because Jesus is nearer than what we think. In these times, it is crucial to have a strong relationship with Him. Put everything aside and ask God to lead you into doing the right thing, even if it hurts. It is possible that the relationship you are in can become marriage.. but it is also very possible that it will be nothing more than what it is now. God doesn’t want you to get hurt. He wants to see you walking in His light. He has GREAT plans for your life! But in order to get that place, you need to start seeking God (mainly by reading His word), praying (talking with God), spiritual fasting etc etc. Listen to worship music to fill up your spirit. And invite God to lead you into doing what is right. The paths that God wants yo to take might not always be easy and they surely might not always be what you want, but I assure you this, in the end of all, His paths are definitely worth it are far better than anything you could have ever wished for.

He will bring that right person into your life someday. But you gotta be patient and you need to learn to trust in God and if all you’re seeking is the momentarily emotional pleasure, then you need to let go of the relationship. If it’s meant to be (if it’s His will for your life), then in His time, He will bring that person back. Believe it.

His will above all things. Amen? And I dunno about you but I want the very best that God has for my life. I trust in Him completely ‘cause I know that God’s word never fails. never-ever.

I encourage you, Let go and Let God.

Be blessed, anon.

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Anonymous asked: I find myself falling for a non-believer. I know it probably wouldn't be the best idea to go out with one. What should I do?

“The human heart is the most deceitful of all things, and desperately wicked. Who really knows how bad it is? Jeremiah 17:9

God holds some pretty high standards. To God, hating a person is the same as murdering a person. Lust is the same as committing adultery. 

And so, it’s important to know that lust can imitate love. And most times, if we allow it—our emotions and feelings can get the best of us. But friend, we can’t let our hearts lead us or convince us that something is right because we feel good for a few moments with a person. … No.. Friend, You’ve got to lead your heart by letting God lead you.

God wants the absolute best for each and every person, but in order to get to that place where God wants to bless us, we’ve gotta surrender all heart and soul to Him.

I encourage you to look to God and to learn to trust in Him more. But I’m talking about being a radical Christian, which means that you trust in God for every single little thing in life that you might confront; from the biggest things to even the microscopic little ones.

And above all, ask God to guide your heart and to lead you into all truth. Ask Him to give you strength to stay patient and to teach you to learn to trust. And believe that if you do these things persistently out of love for God, within time, He will bring that special someone into your life. I don’t know when it will be, but do know that when that day comes, you’ll say, “God, thank you for having me wait. It was soo worth it :)”

Wait for the LORD; be strong, and let your heart take courage; wait for the LORD! Psalm 27:14

Be blessed, kid!