Anonymous asked: Hi! Blessings!!! I'm a Christian and my boyfriend too. but a few months ago we had sex, then we prayed to the Lord from the bottom of our hearts for forgiveness because we were repentant. we still together and we decide to don't do that again. I know that God forgive us but my question is... are we still being for each other? because we are fixing our relationship. p.d. is being hard for us being in the fire of God and I think that influence :/

God’s love and grace knows know end.

And it’s because of that and the fact that you both have truly asked for God’s forgiveness-that He forgave you.

God loves you so much kid. He doesn’t want to see you making the wrong choices, He doesn’t want to see you get hurt— on the contrary, God’s heart desires to see you grow up to be strong in Him. He loves you dearly.

And well, only God knows what is meant to be and what isn’t. His will goes above all things and His logic goes beyond all understanding. (Matthew 6:33, Philippians 4:7)

The best thing you both can do is to put each other on the side for at least 3 months and during that wait, chase hard after the heart of God. Read His word! Listen to worship music, and dive deep into learning more and spending more time with God. Get to know Him. But I really mean it, truly get to know who God is. And then ask God, what path is the one that you’d like me to take Lord? 

Tell God that you want His will for your life above all things. Ask Him to guide you and tell God that even though you want or don’t want this relationship to last, tell Him that you will surrender to His will and that you trust in Him to keep or break off whatever it is that is going to help you to grow closer to Him.

God will ever guide you wrong. He only wants the very best for both you and your boyfriend’s life. He wants to see you both grow and to be strong in His love. And without a doubt, the path God chooses for us and the people that He wants in each our lives, is all for a reason and for a perfect plan. God knows best and no doubt about it, but God knows what and who will make us happy.

So I challenge you both, let go and out the relationship on hold for 3 months. Let God guide you both and seek hard after His word and His heart, and I assure you, God will take control. And whatever is meant to be by His will, will come to be. If that relationship is part of His will for both of your lives, then even after 3 months of being on hold, it will still be strong and if anything, even stronger now that you give God that control.

God loves you both soo much. Learn to trut in Him! Trusting in God is so worth it! There’s a possible chance that the relationship you guys have with each other is meant to last, but there’s also a chance that God has better for both you guys. And I don’t know about you, but I’d like to have the very best of what God has in store for my life! :D

Those who know your name will trust in you, for you, LORD, have never forsaken those who seek you. Psalm 9:10

Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him and he will do this: 6 He will make your righteousness shine like the dawn, the justice of your cause like the noonday sun. Psalm 37:5-6

Let Go & Let God.

Be highly blessed!

//bearhugsforjesus

Anonymous asked: Will God forgive me if i had sex before i was married?

We all mess up and there is not one perfect being out there. Take a look at the people Jesus hung out with - not one of them had it together but Jesus still loved and cared for them none the less. He also forgave them for everything they’ve done. 

God loves all His children and He is more then willing to forgive us if we ask Him to. But please keep in mind that although God is a God of forgiveness, God will and will never be mocked (Galatians 6:7). This means, if you have the mentality of thinking “I’ll do bad now (sin) and ask for forgiveness later” … then I’m afraid you’ve got the wrong mindset. If a christian feels no guilt or shame and willfully sin, then it is highly likely that they were never saved. So many agree mentally with the Bible but have no personal relationship with the Lord of the Bible. That is, they never had a “heart” belief. “for with the heart man believes unto rightousness.”  Part of being saved is honestly trying to be a better person and truly trying to make yourself a better person. A True Christian would learn from their wrong ways and try everything they can to not do them again. 

The act of asking for forgiveness from Christ when you truly believe is what saves you. But to answer your question, if you ask for forgiveness with real repentance that sin will be forgiven (1 John 1:9). 

God Bless!

Anonymous asked: I've heard that sex isn't bad if you love the other person. That making love or having sex is another way of expressing that love even if they are not married. To me I think it shouldn't happen even so because I think I should wait right? And what about all those other things couples do to substitute sex. Are those bad? Also what if you feel uncomfortable doing something because you feel that It is bad in Gods eyes should you just stop doing that because it makes you feel bad ?

“Don’t be fooled by those who try to excuse these sins, for the anger of God will fall on all who disobey him.” - Ephesians 5:6

“The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.” -  Corinthians 6:13b

What you heard about sex is exactly what society thinks of sex and I want you to know that it’s completely different from what God says about it! I’m also going to add my two cents in here and say that if you truly love someone you’ll be able to wait until marriage. Premarital sex is a sin and is something that Christians shouldn’t engage in. We were made new because of Christ, we shouldn’t turn back to our old ways or be wanting to take 3 steps back. No way, José! We have to keep moving forward in Christ. :)

“For once you were full of darkness, but now you have light from the Lord. So live as people of light! For this light within you produces only what is good and right and true. Carefully determine what pleases the Lord. Take no part in the worthless deeds of evil and darkness; instead, expose them.” - Ephesians 5:8-11

It doesn’t matter what all of your friends are doing or what you see in movies or even what unmarried people who live in your own house are doing. God’s Word has not changed! :O  God is today and has always been against His children participating in pre marital sex! God wants us to have sexual relations with our husband or wife only. 1 Corinthians 7:2 says “To avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.”

So yes!! you should be wanting to wait for sex until marriage because it’s what God would wants you to do and God always knows what’s best for us. No doubt, about it! 

“Let those who love the LORD hate evil, for he guards the lives of his faithful ones and delivers them from the hand of the wicked.” - Psalm 97:10

“Since you have been raised to new life with Christ, set your sights on the realities of heaven, where Christ sits in the place of honor at God’s right hand. Think about the things of heaven, not the things of earth. For you died to this life, and your real life is hidden with Christ in God.” - Colossians 3:1-3

Also, Don’t do something if you are doubting it’s correctness. If you are feeling convicted of whatever you’re doing it could be the Holy Spirit that resides in you telling you to stop. If you don’t know if it’s wrong then ask God to reveal to you whether what you’re doing is righteous or unrighteous. He’ll do it! Promise you!

God Bless yah, kid.

Anonymous asked: As a virgin in college, I've come across a lot of "prude shaming" by my peers who have made other choices about their sexuality. There seems to be a stigma of virginity being bad in our culture. I had a boyfriend cheat on me and a friend of mine said it was because I didn't "keep him satisfied." my ex later told me that he didn't like how "not-snuggly" I was, which just added to the hurt. I fully intend on being abstinent until I'm married, but how should Christians handle prude shaming?

“But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you” Matthew 5:44

“‘When they see what I do, they will learn nothing. When they hear what I say, they will not understand.” Mark 4:12

“because He is the Holy Spirit, who leads into all truth. The world cannot receive Him, because it isn’t looking for Him and doesn’t recognize Him. But you know Him, because He lives with you now and later will be in you.” John 14:17

I’m so happy for you, I’m so happy that you’ve kept yourself pure for marriage thus far! That’s such an awesome accomplishment! I want you to know that the choice you are making to stay abstinent is the correct choice and it’s is the best choice!! It is the choice God would like us to make. :)

Society has such a weird definition of Love and as we go through life it’s their definition of love that get’s pushed on us and not God’s. Which in all reality is pretty sad. Society considers sex to be love, but that’s the thing, sex isn’t love. Don’t get me wrong though, sex can come from love, but it’s not based on it and it definitely isn’t required to have it in order to be in love. Don’t ever let society brainwash you into believing that love is based on sex or physical touch, because it’s not.

We live in such a fractured creation due to sin —and these are just some of the things that sin brings upon us. People hopping from bed to bed because they feel entitled to just satisfy themselves… it’s just another form of pride and pride is an unteachable spirit. (It’s something that needs to prayed for daily and you always need to make sure you have your armor on when you pray for it )(Ephesians 6). 

For every person that makes fun of you for being abstinent give the glory to God because if the world hates you for following Christ (following his teachings) it means you’re doing it right. Just hold on to the truth and always stand up for what you believe in even if it means you stand alone.

I encourage you to pray for the people that mock you about this.

“for if the world hates you, remember that it hated me first.” Jesus (John 15:18)

God be their solution.

God Bless You! <3

Anonymous asked: help me please!! some guy is telling me that I should I lose my virginity bc there's nothing wrong with it and I'm missing out on pleasure. when I tell him I don't want to bc of religion he starts saying that God will forgive me and I should just live a little. also that I wouldn't regret it if I did it with someone special. I need help defending myself, ideas?!?!

That kid doesn’t know what he’s talking about. From the little that you’ve told me about him, I see that:

1. He really doesn’t care about God or his relationship with Jesus. He also lets himself be used by the enemy. 
2. He doesn’t care about you or other people.
3. And finally, He definitely does not care about himself nor does He truly value his life/salvation.  

“Those who accept my commandments and obey them are the ones who love me. And because they love me, my Father will love them. And I will love them and reveal myself to each of them.” John 14:21

“Stay on the path that the LORD your God has commanded you to follow. Then you will live long and prosperous lives in the land you are about to enter and occupy.” Deuteronomy 5:33

“And to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.” Ephesians 5:27

“Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. Whoever sows to please their flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction; whoever sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life.” Galatians 6:7-8

“Jesus turned to Peter and said, “Get away from me, Satan! You are a dangerous trap to me. You are seeing things merely from a human point of view, not from God’s.” Matthew 16:33

You are the church. The church isn’t building, it’s you. And God is coming back to look for a church that stands in purity. You need to put your armor on, cover yourself with the blood of Christ Jesus and pray for a liberation for those who are used by the enemy. 

In the end, this guy that’s talking to you.. he can’t save you. Only Jesus can.

So, who are you going to listen to?

Anonymous asked: I did something terrible a few months ago. I gave my bf a blowjob for the first time. We aren't together anymore and ever since then I've been regretting that action and thinking God hates me. I'm scared my family and friends will find out. I'm scared I'll never forgive myself. I am trying to go to Confessions but I don't want to beg my mom to take me because she'll question why I'm so eager. I want to kill myself to end my misery. My thoughts eat me alive. What if I go to hell?

God doesn’t hate you, He knew everything you were going to do even before you were born. (Psalm 139:13-16, Luke 1:15, Jeremiah. 1:5) God loves you very much! That’s why He sent His son Jesus to die in your place. God knew that if He didn’t do anything about it there would be no hope for us at all. I want to let you know that every single person on earth sins. Even the people who come off as “the most holy” sin. There is not one person who doesn’t sin because we all sin. 

I encourage you to ask God for His forgiveness for your action. God knows your heart and He will forgive you if you ask Him. You don’t need to go to confession to confess your sins to someone. Just sincerely ask Jesus right where you are to forgive you. He’ll listen to you and forgive you. You did something that you regret. You realized it and aren’t going to do it again. Don’t spend the rest of the time wishing you could undo it. Learn from your mistakes and move on!

God loves you, brosis!

“If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” - 1 John 1:9

Anonymous asked: Hello! My boyfriend and I have been having pre-marital sex for a month now. The feelings of guilt are so overwhelming but I just haven't found the courage to end it, I'm so scared of disappointing my boyfriend. I'm a pretty new christian, i accepted Christ into my heart this last december and things were better than great for awhile but about a month after my boyfriend and i began dating my relationship with God came to a total halt. I fear that i'm now pregnant and i just don't know what to do.

The main question is, Are you more afraid of disappointing your boyfriend or are you more afraid of disappointing God? 

The reason as to why you’re feeling guilty is because the Holy Spirit dwells inside your spirit.

1 Corinthians 3:16 says, “Do you not know your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit”  

So, if you want to get rid of this guilt, then you’re going to have to get honest with God and you’re going to have to leave pre-marital sex behind. Ask God’s for forgiveness. God’s the only one who can take off this guilt you’ve been carrying around lately. 

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” - Matthew 11:28

Tell your boyfriend the truth, tell him about holiness and God’s plan.

If he is not convinced and you do not want to continue sining then, you’re going to have to let him go.  

Following God is more important and giving into temptations!

Anonymous asked: Yesterday I meet my former-girlfriend again after 3 years and I still have the same feelings but I know love is not about feelings. We did not see each other ever since because she's on the other side of the world and I'm also from the other side, meaning after a year she migrated along with her family to a country in North America from Southeast Asia.I do care for her, but I'm guilty, because I'm a Christian yet 3 years ago I was the one who initiated to have sex. Pls help me what to do.

HEY, DUDE!

I would like to first start of by saying that there is not one christian out there who is perfect, we’re all human and we all have flaws. 

One of the main reasons as to why you’re feeling guilty is because the Holy Spirit dwells inside your spirit. I Corinthians 3:16 says, “Do you not know your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit.”  So, if you want to get rid of this guilt, then you’re going to have to get honest with God and ask for His forgiveness. God’s the only one who can take off this guilt you’ve been carrying around lately. 

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” - Matthew 11:28

The next thing that I would do is ask my girlfriend for forgiveness and if she has any questions, I would answer them to help her understand. 

Other then that, just wait until marriage for sex, bro. It’s the way God intended it to be and It’s better that way. 

If you want to, you’re more then free to check out our posts on premarital sex right here: http://bearhugsforjesus.tumblr.com/tagged/premarital+sex

God bless yah, broski.

alium asked: My boyfriend and I are both Christians, and we're both abstinent; we're waiting until marriage. We're thinking about moving in an apartment together, but I've heard someone say that it's "sinful" for unmarried couples to live together even if they're not doing anything sexual. What's your opinion?

Wholly poop! That’s so rad that you and you’re boyfriend are waiting until marriage! What an awesome choice! I for one would never recommend or give the green flag for someone to live with their boyfriend or girlfriend alone in a house, apartment, or any living establishment. Now hear me out. I wouldn’t recommend this to anyone not because it’s sinful, but because it could lead you to fall into sin, or someone else to fall into sin. Saying you’re going to stay abstinent and actually staying abstinent are two different things. 

Why open the doors to temptation? God tells us to run from temptation. (1 Corinthians 6:18) 

Also, there are some people that know you as a christian girl and you’re boyfriend as a christian guy. Some people without you knowing it might even look up to you as a christian role model, you know. When you’re a christian there’s always going to be  non-christians waiting for you to mess up so they can call you out on it, so they can judge you.

Let’s say maybe you do move into an apartment with you’re boyfriend, and you both do in fact stay abstinent. Sure, you guys and God will know you didn’t fall into sin, but the secular view of an unmarried couple living together always relates to sexual things. Even though you might not like it and as I said before there are always eyes on you, people who look up to you as a christian (these people might not even talk to you, but still look up to you) and if they find out you’re living with you’re boyfriend they’re going to assume things. They might even think “well this Christian girl I know lives with her boyfriend.. why can’t I?”  and this person might not even stay abstinent. 

“Therefore, if what I eat causes my brother to fall into sin, I will never eat meat again, so that I will not cause him to fall.” - 1 Corinthians 8:13

Well that’s all I have to say. =)

I really hope you really think about this and pray about it. 

God Bless!