alium asked: My boyfriend and I are both Christians, and we're both abstinent; we're waiting until marriage. We're thinking about moving in an apartment together, but I've heard someone say that it's "sinful" for unmarried couples to live together even if they're not doing anything sexual. What's your opinion?

Wholly poop! That’s so rad that you and you’re boyfriend are waiting until marriage! What an awesome choice! I for one would never recommend or give the green flag for someone to live with their boyfriend or girlfriend alone in a house, apartment, or any living establishment. Now hear me out. I wouldn’t recommend this to anyone not because it’s sinful, but because it could lead you to fall into sin, or someone else to fall into sin. Saying you’re going to stay abstinent and actually staying abstinent are two different things. 

Why open the doors to temptation? God tells us to run from temptation. (1 Corinthians 6:18) 

Also, there are some people that know you as a christian girl and you’re boyfriend as a christian guy. Some people without you knowing it might even look up to you as a christian role model, you know. When you’re a christian there’s always going to be  non-christians waiting for you to mess up so they can call you out on it, so they can judge you.

Let’s say maybe you do move into an apartment with you’re boyfriend, and you both do in fact stay abstinent. Sure, you guys and God will know you didn’t fall into sin, but the secular view of an unmarried couple living together always relates to sexual things. Even though you might not like it and as I said before there are always eyes on you, people who look up to you as a christian (these people might not even talk to you, but still look up to you) and if they find out you’re living with you’re boyfriend they’re going to assume things. They might even think “well this Christian girl I know lives with her boyfriend.. why can’t I?”  and this person might not even stay abstinent. 

“Therefore, if what I eat causes my brother to fall into sin, I will never eat meat again, so that I will not cause him to fall.” - 1 Corinthians 8:13

Well that’s all I have to say. =)

I really hope you really think about this and pray about it. 

God Bless!

Anonymous asked: Please pray for my boyfriend and myself. We are dealing with the issue of premarital sex, and we are attempting to STOP what we allowed temptation to bring us to. I have prayed asking God to forgive me and my boyfriend and I have talked about this. We decided not to do it again, but please pray that we can stick to that choice.

That’s a Radtastic choice you guys made! If you asked God for forgiveness, God has forgiven you. Scripture tells us that if we confess our sins God is Faithful and Just to forgive. 1 John 1:9

We will definitely keep you both in our prayers.

Bless you both!

Anonymous asked: my last boyfriend and i went out for years. we were both christian and about a year before we broke up we slept together. i didn't think much of it at the time because i was sure one day we'd get married. now, i'm sure we won't and i'm okay with that. but i feel so awful for my future husband (whoever he is), and the other day i was so upset that i won't be able to give myself fully to him.

We’re human and we all make mistakes.

I’m more then sure that you future husband will love you for are and not what you’ve done. The past is in the past, you’ve left the old you behind, learn from your mistakes, keep your head and keep moving forward.

Don’t worry about your future and just let God guide you. He will take care of you I promise but you have to trust in Him. 

Check this post out:

http://bearhugsforjesus.tumblr.com/post/17626917776

God bless you! c:

Anonymous asked: I'm in a relationship with this guy & we're both Christians. We once went to a seminar called "true love waits" and both made a promise to stay pure until after marriage. As teenagers, we began to talk about sex and we began to want it. We both broke the promise of staying pure as we gave into sex, and did it twice. Just recently, I thought about it & really regret it. I feel really bad as we're so young. How can I be pure again? I am finding it hard to talk to God about it. Please pray for me.

hi! c:

I believe it is more then possible to become a virgin again. 

Maybe not physically, but spiritually yes.

A man named Nicodemus once asked Jesus a very similar question he asked ”How can an old man go back into his mother’s womb and be born again?” (John 3:4) and Jesus replied by talking about a second spiritual birth. 

“Humans can reproduce only human life, but the Holy Spirit gives new life from heaven.” - John 3:6

Through the Holy Spirit your past can be transformed but you have to trust in Jesus. The apostle Paul talked about this in a letter He sent to a group of Christians in Greece:

“Surely you know that people who do wrong will not get to enjoy God’s kingdom. Don’t be fooled. These are the people who will not get to enjoy his kingdom: those who sin sexually, those who worship idols, those who commit adultery, men who let other men use them for sex or who have sex with other men, those who steal, those who are greedy, those who drink too much, those who abuse others with insults, and those who cheat. In the past some of you were like that. But you were washed clean, you were made holy, and you were made right with God in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.” - 1 Corinthians 6:9-11

So, in order for you to become a virgin spiritually you have to humble yourself before God, ask what you need and God will begin to work in your life. You have to trust Him.

Once again, you might not be a virgin in the physical sense but you will be a virgin in the spiritual sense meaning you have been made new in God’s eyes. 

God bless! I’m praying for you <3

- aramis

Anonymous asked: In the Bible, the marriage of two people is classified as engaging in sexual intercourse. Our modern weddings are pretty much made for show, according to God's view of marriage. I've been dating my boyfriend for over three years, we want to get married but we don't have the money and we're both going to school for a long time. I think that if we have sex, it isn't seen as sinful for the fact that we plan to spend therest of our live together, ruling out adultery. what do you think?

I’m going to be honest. If your love is real, then you should be able to wait. 

God says not to trust in man’s words. (Psalm 146:3.) People say things one day and then change their minds. People always make plans but plans break. You might say that now, but I don’t think you really know what you’re getting into. 

If you read the book of Genesis carefully, you’ll find that the man had to pay the father of the girl to have her. 

Jacob worked a total of 14 years to have Rachel. 

Deuteronomy 22:13-21 talks about the “tokens of virginity.” Evidently, there were witnesses who observed the couple go into the tent, and then took these “tokens” after they couple had sex for the first time.

Galatians 5:6-24 tells us that we need to control our emotions and live not by the flesh but by the spirit. 

The Bible does not say that there must be any sort of ceremony. It doesn’t give any details of what constitutes a marriage. However.. in the New Testament, Peter tell us to subject to the governing authorities (1 Peter 2:13-16; Romans 13:1-6). So, if the government requires a marriage ceremony then the Bible requires a ceremony. In the United States forty-seven of the fifty states require at least the signing of a marriage license before a person authorized by the state to marry the couple, and the signatures of witnesses.

The heart is deceitful above all things,and desperately sick; who can understand it?

“I the Lord search the heart and test the mind, to give every man according to his ways, according to the fruit of his deeds.” - Jeremiah 17:9

God gave Moses the law. (Exodus) And while though we don’t keep every part of the law today.. Jesus told us that He did not come to break or take away the old law, but to full fill it. Matthew 5:17. He also tells us to keep the ten commandments. Jesus tells us to remain in His love by keeping those laws (John 15:!0).  

Ultimately, the choice is yours. You’ve been given a free will to do as you please. But that doesn’t mean that your choice will not lead to consequences and that doesn’t meant that your choice or your way, is the right way.  

Strengthen your relationship with God before anything. He’s your first and last love. And He wants the best for you.  

Don’t make an adolescent move and regret things later on. Tell God to guide you. But don’t let the answer root from your emotions or your interpretations of things. (John 9:31)

Well thats my two cents.

Bless you kid!  

-Aymar

Anonymous asked: is it a sin to like make out with someone if it doesn't lead to anything more?

Hello! :D

Kissing isn’t a sin, but Lust is. 

“Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body.” - 1 Corinthians 6:18

Making out could lead to sexual thoughts which could lead to other things. So just be careful! If you don’t know how to control yourself, then don’t put your self in situations in which you could end up sinning in.

God Bless!

-BHFJ Team

Here is where many Christians get confused. After Jesus’ death on the cross, we are now under a new covenant with God the Father. As stated above, no more animal sacrifices are needed to get forgiveness for our sins. However, there are verses in the New Testament that state that we are no longer under the law, but under grace.

Some Christians mistakenly think we no longer have to obey any of the basic laws andcommandments set out by God the Father in the Old Testament since we are now operating under a new covenant with Jesus. But this view is wrong. Jesus Himself says that He did not come to do away with the law, but to fulfill it.

Here is the verse directly from Jesus Himself:

“Do not think that I came to destroy the Law or the Prophets. I did not come to destroy but to fulfill. For assuredly, I say to you, till heaven and earth pass away, one jot or one tittle will by no means pass from the law till all is fulfilled.” (Matthew 5:17-18)

This verse right there tells you that all of the basic moral commandments set out by God the Father in the Old Testament still apply for all of us today. This includes all of the 10 Commandments, all the commands not to engage in homosexuality, the occult, getting tattoos, etc.

Granted, many of the ceremonial type laws back in the Old Testament are no longer applicable in today’s world, but many of the moral laws that God had set out are still in full play today.

For instance, some Christians believe that since tattoos are not mentioned in the New Testament, but just in the Old Testament, that they no longer have to abide by God’s command on this issue from back in the Old Testament, and they are now free to be able get tattoos in this day and age.

However, the above verse from Jesus Himself tells us that those kinds of commandments are still in force and will be until “all is fulfilled” – which I believe refers to His second coming.

Jesus is referred to as the “fulfillment” of the law because His death on the cross gives us total and permanent forgiveness of all of our sins. In the Old Testament, the killing and sacrificing of the lambs did not give the Jewish people total and permanent forgiveness. It only gave then a temporary covering for their sins until Jesus came down to die on the cross for all of our sins.

When the Jewish people died in the Old Testament, they did not go straight to heaven because Jesus had not come yet. Their sins were not totally forgiven until Jesus came and died on the cross. This is why Jesus is referred to as the “fulfillment” of the Law. That is why He said on the cross right before He died – “It is finished.”

Jesus did what the lambs could not fully do in the Old Testament. His death on the cross gave all of us who will accept it – full, final, and permanent forgiveness for all of our sins – all past, present, and future sins that we will ever commit.

When the Bible says we are no longer under the law, but under grace in the New Testament, what it is referring to is that we do not have to kill animals anymore for the forgiveness of our sins. We are now under God’s grace and mercy because His Son has now died for us, and we now have total and complete forgiveness for all of our sins.

We also do not stone people to death if they now commit adultery. It is now between that person and God to get their sins forgiven and if they do not, then God will judge them accordingly when they die and cross over. We no longer have a right to put a person to death for adultery and engaging in the occult.

To read further visit:

http://www.bible-knowledge.com/old-testament-vs-new-testament/

Anonymous asked: I have a question about learning to accept things. I was having premarital sex with my ex-boyfriend and he was cheating on me and now I have HPV. I'm feeling alone and as if I'll never be married or have children one day because of it. What do I do?

You don’t have to accept that. You can be completely healed of HPV. If you’re saved: Jesus paid for our healing; it’s included in atonement. We’ll be praying for you. If you can, I also suggest having Spirit-filled believers pray and believe with you. 
If you aren’t saved: Jesus healed plenty of people who just believed in his healing and that was the catalyst for their faith in him as Lord.
As for the past: it’s the past. Leave it there. Don’t let the past rule your future!

*PS. Even if Jesus hadn’t paid for healing, I think there are also medicines for HPV - but I’m not sure of that. I am sure its Jesus’ will is to heal you though!!

-Tyler

Anonymous asked: Why is premarital sex wrong? I know it's bad, but one day someone asked me why & I truly didn't know. Specifically, why is it?

God calls us to purity. Not because it’s easy, but because it’s the best for us.

“Therefore, since we have these promises, dear friends, let us purify ourselves from everything that contaminates body and spirit, perfecting holiness out of reverence for God.” - 2 Corinthians 7

Form your own view of sexual purity based on God’s word. Read 1 Thessalonians 4:3-8, 1 Corinthians 6:15-20, 2 Corinthians 6:14 to find out what God has to say.

What do you give up when you have pre-marital sex? you give up more then just your virginity. You give up your self respect, your peace of mind, your obedience to God, and your freedom of not having any guilt with your future husband when it comes to sex.

God bless! <3

- aramis