Anonymous asked: I was raped multiple times as a child by a family member, and I understand that God didn't want that to happen. But It's been six years, and I'm still in therapy, I've been diagnosed with PTSD, I get flash-backs. They are terribly vivid, and I can't control them. Why would He let me live like this?
“Instead of your shame you will receive a double portion, and instead of disgrace you will rejoice in your inheritance. And so you will inherit a double portion in your land, and everlasting joy will be yours.” Isaiah 61:7
I’m so sorry for what happened to you. And I’m sorry that you’re having flashbacks about it.
Please know that rape is a sin against you. You are not the one to blame.
God has a plan of healing for you, but in order for this healing to begin you have to forgive the person who did this to you.
I know this might be really hard for you to do and it might not make much sense at this moment in time, but forgiveness provides freedom and if you want to be free you need to forgive and not until then will God start working in your life.
Talking about this issue to someone helps in the healing process, so you’re doing the right thing by doing therapy. There are also many Christian counselors, a friend, a spiritual leader out there who are willing to help you heal, but you need to reach out to them. Talking yourself openly and honestly also really helps to get through this. You need to talk to yourself openly and honestly to get over it and also talk to God and ask Him for His help and guidance.
Healing isn’t something that is going to happen over night. It’s going to take some time. And I don’t know how long it will be but I do know that you just need to keep trusting in God and keep pressing onward.
I posted a video about Joyce Meyer on her personal testimony. I think it’ll really help you to listen to it. Here’s the link: Joyce Meyer’s Testimony.
God is alive and well. There is always hope.
Give God your mess and let it become your message.
And just know that the fight you’re in has already been won.
“Only God can turn a MESS into a MESSAGE, a TEST into a TESTIMONY, a TRIAL into a TRIUMPH, a VICTIM into a VICTORY.”
Anonymous asked: I have a question: Why doesn't 'God' Stop rapists and murderers?
For the same reason He doesn’t stop all other sin - the fact that He created us with moral capacity and free will, which is what makes us different from mere animals. Free will would be meaningless if God said, “I give you the right to choose good or evil, but whenever you choose evil I’ll jump in and make sure nobody gets hurt”.
Although that would be great… it doesn’t work like that.
The real question is why do men fill their hearts with such evil to commit such hideous crimes. God is a just and merciful God and perfect in all His ways. He doesn’t desire the death of sinners but that all should come to repentance and even with the evil that men commit, He makes a way of escape for the victims. As much as we try to understand.. just know that God’s ways are higher than our ways and He doesn’t think as we do. So trust His judgment and have faith in Him, you’ll see it all works for good, as hard as it is to believe.
“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the Lord. As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.” - Isaiah 55:8-9
“Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.” - Proverbs 3:5
Anonymous asked: I was raped, and I'm not sure what is to come next- did God want that to happen to me? What does a Godly relationship even look like?
Hello, I was rape twice in my life & many other bad experiences w/ men in that area, when i didn’t know Jesus & even being a christian it happen to me. Sadly we are in a falling world & this things happens to good people too. HOWEVER this is NOT something God wanted to happen to you, John 10:10 The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full. Thats prove that God never does harm to us. Sometimes we open doors to the enemy and thats how he gets a foothold in our lives & negative things happen to us. However NEVER feel guilty of what happen in any way you did not deserve it. In order for you to have a great relationship with anyone you most know Its never your fault & let go of any guilt. Know that God wants ONLY good things to happen to you but because of the sin in this world we are going to go through things. If you allow God to heal you completely you will have a normal relationship w/ the opposite sex, friends & family. Don’t allow fear to enter into you because of what happen for it will destroy any relationship you may have. BUT God set you free so you are free indeed if you surrender to Him what the enemy did to you. And then God will turn it around and use you to help others thats been through that (romans 8:28), like it happen to me & now Im here telling you. It will be ok but only if you seek Jesus for continuous healing & help.
If you continue to follow Jesus I promise you your future is full of hope & things you could never dream of. A godly relationship its define in the bible in 1 Corinthians 13:4 ….Sadly there are wolves in sheep clothing the bible even said so, so if you pray & read His word He will show you what a Godly relationship should be Start by reading it 1 Cor. and the more you learn His word when someone comes to hurt you, you will know right away & the Holy Spirit over all will guide you to all truth…….I am living prove of a survivor of rape more than once & because I hang on to God knowing He loved me even when no one did, is the reason I have a fulfill life w/ a great husband of 18 years & 4 children & in an amazing church, with a calling a neber thought God could ever use me…He can do it and He will do it for you too. There’s still hope for you! …(if you need more to talk let me know, im a talker obviously lol)
- Pastor Ines :)
Anonymous asked: I was raped, and I thought I was over it, but I don't think I am. I have nightmares every night. Never had I done anything sexual with a guy. Now I am becoming friends with a nice Christian guy. I am becoming to trust him a lot. However, I can't every picture us together. I can picture us together, but when I picture myself every being comfortable with him, physically- I get scared and push him away. I don't know how to when to know if I am over it...
I’m sorry for what happened to you in your past & I’m sorry that you’re having nightmares about it every night. Please know that rape is a sin against you. You are not the one to blame.
God has a plan of healing for you, but in order for this healing to begin you have to forgive the person who did this to you. I know this might be really hard for you to do, but forgiveness provides freedom and If you aspire to be free you need to forgive and not until then will God start working in your life.
If you haven’t sought professional counseling I strongly urge you to consider it. Talking about this issue to someone will also help in the healing process. There are many Christian consolers out there who are willing to help you heal, but you need to reach out to them.
Healing isn’t something that’s going to happen over night. It’s going to take some time. So just keep trusting in God and keep pressing on.
God bless you <3